Psychology in daily life

Psychology is the scientific study of behavior, mind and actions of people. Psychology deals with how people react to the situation. Most people who are aggressive in nature tend to overreact on small issues, while the person who is calm in nature tends to react wisely. Psychology plays a vital role in our daily life and it is very important nowadays to understand ourselves and our surrounding people in a better manner. Here surrounding people include us, our family, our friends and our colleagues at the workplace. It is necessary to understand our circle well, rather than judging people on their actions and reactions.
Psychology works in many of areas of life in education system understanding child psychology is the very important thing as it helps teachers to understand their students well and help them in modifying their teaching methods so that every student understands the concepts well. If some children are troublesome, understanding them and handling them is very delicate in such situations psychology comes into the picture. While in our daily life psychology helps in improving our personal as well as professional relationships and helps us lead a stress-free life. We all know on social level understanding criminal psychology also plays an important role in investigating certain crimes and cases efficiently. Sometimes children are affected by parental divorce, young adults are facing traumatic situations like heartbreak, inferiority complex, lack of confidence coping up with hormonal changes, and mood swings etc. which causes stress and anxiety in their life here psychology can definitely help them in managing their emotions wisely. The major application of psychology is protecting people from harming themselves emotionally and physically so they can handle their issues in an effective manner. Psychology helps people having a successful career, better relationships, gaining self-confidence, improve decision-making skills, avoid overreacting, relieving stress and making them aware of themselves.

LACK OF MOTIVATION

Some times we feel not to do anything or feel very low, lazy, frustrated that we don't even feel to wake up from sleep and start daily chores the situation gets so irritating sometimes that we just get annoyed when our parents, friends say even little things which makes us angry and irritated without having any valid reason. Even if someone says Hey How are you ? or parents say take bath !! we get so annoyed that we just burst on them... This is not the case that we intentionally get angry on them but sometimes we just can't handle our emotions wisely. The lack of motivation reduces our productivity which in turn affect our professional life and causes stress which leads to unhealthy personal life. Deficiency of motivation leads to low energy and low self-esteem. 

So what causes a lack of motivation?

• We don't have a goal in life or we have a goal in life which is not SMART (specific, measurable, achievable, relevant, time-bound) enough.
• We are exhausted from daily life.
• We fear change
• We are impatient 
• We have an unhealthy lifestyle
• We try to please everyone around
• We settle for less 

These are some of the reasons or causes of lack of motivation in life. which look small but indeed contribute to shaping our mind to attain a negative mindset. Overcoming the above-mentioned reasons will definitely help in gaining that motivation back and setting that fire inside to do something and feel energized like never before.

What can be done to overcome these causes? Let's move point by point

• We don't have a goal in life or we have a goal in life which is not SMART enough:

The setting a goal in life is very important or our life may get on the wrong track as we don't know what is our ultimate destination. so setting a specific, measurable, relevant and time-bound goal is very important.

• We are exhausted from daily life:

We should plan our schedule and manage time wisely and give our-self time for relaxation for at least 2-5 minutes in a day during work and perform simple deep breathing exercises for a while even can be done during lunchtime before eating a meal.

• Fear of change:

Everyone fears change we don't want something different than the daily lifestyle we fear to change somethings even if they are for our betterment still we limit ourselves. As it is rightly said by Shonda Rhimes 

"You can waste your lives by drawing lines or you can live your life crossing them."

which means we set a boundary for ourselves and live life accordingly within those boundaries but if we cross our limits yes obviously in a positive way we can excel in life and enjoy life to its fullest.

• We are impatient:

It is true that today's generation is impatient they need quick results in minimum efforts. But we know the rule every action has equal and opposite reaction stated by Sir Issac Newton which can be applied as giving 100% effort in whatever we are doing we will get 100% result definitely. Since gaining result is long term process we have to be patient there and sometimes indirect parameters such as work pressure, peer pressure expecting unrealistic result may lead to impatience these parameters are needed to be controlled by practicing meditation and keeping mind calm.

• We have an unhealthy lifestyle:

Our eating habits, diet plays an important role in our life. The micro and macro-nutrients which we get from properly balanced diet play a vital role in boosting our energy and immunity levels when our body feel energized from inside we don't need any outside motivation.

• We try to please everyone around:

While we try to please everyone we lose ourselves in turning into some which are way more different from the person we are in actual. This leads to unnecessary stress. It's a very good feeling to be yourself rather than changing as per peoples need and convenience.

• We settle for less:

We have to be very thoughtful while choosing for ourselves and make sure that we are not getting less than what we deserve. It is so strange that while buying a gift for others we choose the best premium quality things and for us, we get satisfied in buying normal quality things which there itself shows how much we value ourselves. So settling for less than we deserve is not affordable for our life and should not be the option for us. This indirectly affects our mind and creates a mindset that I m getting less than what I deserve and lead to prolonged stress-causing lack of motivation in doing the work.

Overcoming these simple causes will definitely change our lives and will make it better than it was before giving lots and lots of positive vibes and creating a positive mindset.

 Motivation is the only thing which pushes us towards our aims and goals in life. I have seen people waking up reading motivational quotes listening motivational videos and starting work for the day and end up feeling loss of motivation and loss of energy till afternoon but, actually, motivation is not prerequisite to begin a day rather than it should be used at the end of the day where we actually need motivation when we are already drained off from daily activities using a motivation to kick start your day is the worst thing because you don't have that raging inner fire to wake up and we depend on the materialistic things to get motivated. Motivation should rise from within ourselves from the bottom of our heart and this motivation is long-lasting it doesn't needs to get recharged timely.....

EXISTENCE

The moment we are born on this planet earth creates joy in everyone around i.e our family...Mom and dad they are the ones who first laughed when we cried but the only people in life who will never laugh again when they see tears in our eyes......the day we are born on this planet, the joy family shares is so beautiful all through the journey when the first breath we take in our mothers womb till the moment we are born.....every thing feels so beautiful, our first talk, our first smile, our first school day, our first rain, first festival and many more the list goes on.....Giving birth to life is miracle which every mother feel privileged about 

Its so beautiful that how child suddenly adapts to the atmosphere around and makes space for themselves its strange how god has created such a beautiful masterpiece an human-being it just makes me amazed thinking about the same.....the magic of almighty THE GOD (Generator, Organizer and Destroyer) withing three letters the life cycle is described.....it just as always lefts me in complete awe...Many questions keeps running in my mind that How exactly the life cycle began?, How human race came into existence? How and who created this world etc etc (anyways we will discuss about my question later on) .....Many people just strives whole life finding out the answers the more i think the more questions came into my mind.....

As its rightly said by Fyodor Dostoevsky,"The mystery of human existence lies not in just staying alive, but in finding something to live for.........." 

Some days ago i was just cleaning my cupboard and came across a bag actually not a bag but bucket full of memories.........yaa a bucket of memories you heard it correct it contained many albums in which there were some pics of baby me, some were my grand parents holding me, some my parents holding me the feeling was out of this world to relive those memories again......some of my photos were of my birthday i guess when i was year old or 2 my crying face with lots of people surrounding me i just could imagine how as a child i was feeling to be surrounded by group of people who came just to see me...those days those times can never come back again but stay as a beautiful memories in the form of pictures......Whole day me and my family cherished the memories about each and every photos the scenario behind those photos......which were indeed enjoyable the crying photos, now brought smile on our faces.....so strange right ?  This quarantine time has in-turn brought the beautiful moments alive in front of our eyes which are always to be cherished.....